It’s nearly 3 weeks after my previous post (Moving on) and my wife and I are still trying to make our marriage work. So far things seem to be going quite well. I often wonder if they will ever be right? I’ve managed to accept what has happened and put the past behind me, but will that be enough? only time will tell…….
Moving on
As I’ve mentioned previously life is about learning and how you adapt those lessons going forward. I’ve been given a second opportunity to make my marriage work. As much as I’ve always wanted my marriage to work it is by far the much harder route to take as it involves a lot of hard work and a lot of pain and suffering needs to be dealt with. At the end of it there is no guarantee that it will work. I’ve always believed in my marriage and my wife and that is why I have opted to go this route so far down the road.
Is it possible to move on with your life with a loved one that has caused a lot of hurt and pain? No one wants to be emotionally hurt or rejected so why would anyone want to put them selves in a position where there is a possibility of this happening again? I believe that we are only human and we do make mistakes. In order to move on with ones life you need to be able to accept what has happened and forgive in order to be able to put it behind you. Granted this is easier said than done and isn’t always possible.
I like to treat people the way I would like to be treated in return. If I had made a mistake and realised what I had thrown away I would like the person on the receiving end to give me a second chance.
With all of that being said, I’m going to give this marriage all I have to give in the hope that we are able to make it work.
I know most people will think I’m an idiot for doing this but I’m at the point in my life where I don’t care what people think about or say about me. I’m living for me, and doing what I feel is best for me.
crazy petrol price
I was having a look at the petrol price fluctuation from the AA over the last few years and decided to plot the data, it paints quite a scary picture. It doesn’t look like its going to improve any time soon.
Pain and Suffering
Its quite interesting that as human beings we tend to only learn after going through a fair amount of pain and or suffering. I guess at the same time with out the bad times we wouldn’t have anything to base the good times on? If we only ever experienced good times would we be happy and content with ourselves or would we still be striving to have something better?
As people I believe we often make the mistake of not looking at who and what we are and being grateful for what we have achieved in life instead we are constantly looking at what others have or finding something negative in the situation we are in. I think allot of people try and find happiness and contentment in the wrong areas ie. with material objects. I believe one needs to first be happy and content with them selves, before you are able to be happy with your environment and things around you. Unfortunately its normally a fair amount of pain and suffering that brings this type of thinking on… it has for me anyway.
Thats my 2 cents worth for now.
Life isn’t easy…
After being faced with a divorce after being married for only 2 years, I’ve realized that life throws curved balls at one from time to time in order for us to learn and possibly groom us for the next experience/adventure that awaits us. Its for us to take something from the experience and learn from it. I believe things happen for a reason, more often than not the reason is only clear to us much later on in life or sometimes never at all. In order to see and understand the reason I believe one needs to come to terms with what has happened and try find something positive out of the situation. I know this is easier said than done but so far it has worked for me.
Out of my situation I’ve been able to learn allot about my self in particular I’m realised it’s very important to let things out and not keep them in to fester. This ordeal has also brought me allot closer to my family. Every now and then I keep asking my self why me? as I always had this thought that it would never happen to me and looking back I know I could have done more to show that married life meant more to me. I guess the biggest lesson that I had to learn was to learn to appreciate what I have and not take things in my life for granted.
At this point in time I’m possibly the last person to give any advice on this type of situation but if there is any book you are going to read you should read “Man’s search for meaning” by Viktor Frankl.
Perhaps in time I’ll write more about my ordeal and how things panned out 
