As I’ve mentioned previously life is about learning and how you adapt those lessons going forward. I’ve been given a second opportunity to make my marriage work. As much as I’ve always wanted my marriage to work it is by far the much harder route to take as it involves a lot of hard work and a lot of pain and suffering needs to be dealt with. At the end of it there is no guarantee that it will work. I’ve always believed in my marriage and my wife and that is why I have opted to go this route so far down the road.
Is it possible to move on with your life with a loved one that has caused a lot of hurt and pain? No one wants to be emotionally hurt or rejected so why would anyone want to put them selves in a position where there is a possibility of this happening again? I believe that we are only human and we do make mistakes. In order to move on with ones life you need to be able to accept what has happened and forgive in order to be able to put it behind you. Granted this is easier said than done and isn’t always possible.
I like to treat people the way I would like to be treated in return. If I had made a mistake and realised what I had thrown away I would like the person on the receiving end to give me a second chance.
With all of that being said, I’m going to give this marriage all I have to give in the hope that we are able to make it work.
I know most people will think I’m an idiot for doing this but I’m at the point in my life where I don’t care what people think about or say about me. I’m living for me, and doing what I feel is best for me.
29/05/2008 at 10:41 am Permalink
Good luck - I will give you all the support you need to make it work.
With love.
29/05/2008 at 11:23 am Permalink
That’s all you can do, all any of us can ever do … just do what you believe is best for you and make the most of the opportunities you are given.
If you have the chance to save your marriage, then I think you should take it … you’ll know soon enough if you’re on the right track or not. Your eyes are already open to pain so you have the benefit of experience going forward. You now have the wisdom and knowledge to put appropriate boundaries in place so that you can work on re-establishing trust.
And you are right, it’s not going to be easy, it’s going to be hard work, for both of you.
From someone who’s been there and got the shitty T-shirt, I wish you all the best and applaud your strength of character.
02/06/2008 at 10:39 pm Permalink
There are no words for the kind of man you are. I can’t think of anyone who would have acted with as much dignity and understanding. You should feel proud and realise just how rare you are.
One last thing : stuff what everyone else says. But also , only do what makes you happy otherwise what is the point?!