After being faced with a divorce after being married for only 2 years, I’ve realized that life throws curved balls at one from time to time in order for us to learn and possibly groom us for the next experience/adventure that awaits us. Its for us to take something from the experience and learn from it. I believe things happen for a reason, more often than not the reason is only clear to us much later on in life or sometimes never at all. In order to see and understand the reason I believe one needs to come to terms with what has happened and try find something positive out of the situation. I know this is easier said than done but so far it has worked for me.
Out of my situation I’ve been able to learn allot about my self in particular I’m realised it’s very important to let things out and not keep them in to fester. This ordeal has also brought me allot closer to my family. Every now and then I keep asking my self why me? as I always had this thought that it would never happen to me and looking back I know I could have done more to show that married life meant more to me. I guess the biggest lesson that I had to learn was to learn to appreciate what I have and not take things in my life for granted.
At this point in time I’m possibly the last person to give any advice on this type of situation but if there is any book you are going to read you should read “Man’s search for meaning” by Viktor Frankl.
Perhaps in time I’ll write more about my ordeal and how things panned out 
07/05/2008 at 12:13 am Permalink
I think no matter what happens or how things end or perhaps continue this experience will make you stronger.
Too many people go through things and all they do is wallow; they never learn from it.
I hope your blog grows and attracts many more readers. There is a definite need for an inspirational space like this on the net.
I look forward to reading more of your ramblings!
07/05/2008 at 11:52 am Permalink
Hey boy
as long as you know your chinas are here for you!
chin up soldier!
07/05/2008 at 10:52 pm Permalink
So often we consider ourselves to blame for a breakdown in a relationship. Have you considered that maybe you are not entirely(or at all for that matter) reponsible and the only reponsibility that may be attrubuted to you was an INCORRECT choice of partner
07/05/2008 at 10:53 pm Permalink
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08/05/2008 at 8:47 am Permalink
I think you are doing amazingly well. I know you have been to hell and back and have come out a wonderful young man. I’m very proud of you. We are enjoying our new lodger. Keep strong. We are always there for you
08/05/2008 at 4:14 pm Permalink
It is the manner in which we conduct ourselves during times of adversity that determine our quality as human beings. You have shown your attributes of tenacity, kindness, compassion and dignity by your actions and attitude to the painful situation you are experiencing
You are a brave and strong person who I am proud to call my son
21/05/2008 at 12:08 am Permalink
and you Seon, with your generosity of spirit, are a person I am proud to call a friend